Bitching again

A child of five to approximately nine years of age, in the concrete operational stage of cognitive development believes that death can be avoided.  Furthermore, a child in this egocentric phase also believes that his or her parent died because either the parent was bad or the child was bad, and that if the child is good, the parent can return.  This is thus seen as one of the most vulnerable and difficult developmental stages for adjusting to a parent’s death. The child at this stage needs someone who can clarify what the child is thinking and feeling, can reframe events to make them more understandable, can reassure and build self-esteem by praising the child’s accomplishments and by emphasizing the child’s importance.

Thus, if a parent dies before formal operational cognition has been achieved, the child will experience a deeper level of grief when he or she attains that cognitive stage and fully and deeply comprehends the finality and irreversibility of the loss.  This usually occurs in early adolescence, another  particularly vulnerable time in the process of adjusting to a parent’s death and in overall development.  Christ (2000, pp. 190-91) calls the adolescent’s profound experience of his or her loss due to the attainment of formal operational thinking, coupled with adolescent developmental tasks such as separating from family, negotiating a more adult relationship with the surviving parent, finding one’s identity and true values and deepening relationships with peers “daunting challenges for adolescents that often exacerbate pre-existing vulnerabilities.”

The loss of a parent in a child’s infancy, especially if that parent was the primary caregiver, will inevitably lead to difficulties in attachment and trust, and consequent feelings of anger or  depression as the child grows and is unable to attach or become intimate with others.  In order for such an individual to successfully relocate and internalize the deceased parent, as well as complete Worden’s other tasks, he or she will need to transfer the process to other figures, such as a trusted teacher or therapist, in order to reconstruct his or her parental loss and the deceased parent’s place in his or her life, and it is the job of the grief therapist and others in the child’s life to support and facilitate that process.


"¿Qué edad tenías cuando falleció?" "Ocho" "Qué edad dificil" creo que me dijo eso, me lo dijo 2 veces exactamente igual así que debería recordarlo, pero no estoy segura. En su momento pensé "Como si hubiera una edad donde fuera fácil", pero al parecer tenía razón, era la edad más dificil. En fin.

Snatched

He finally realized, sometimes, even if you want something real bad, you shouldn't have it.

WHy

Por qué ella y no yo?

Seguro que ella no pasa un feriado a las 4 am con una copa de vino en la mano mirando Enredados.

Something that I want... something I tell myself I need

jajajajaja

Te doy hasta que Don Ramón pague la renta
Estás más fuerte que la casa del tercer chanchito

y para los políticos...

Te doy hasta que 678 gane el premio clarin

Día especial(mente angustioso)

La lágrima secó
Se aleja el temporal
Latiendo como el sol
Mi corazón no tiene edad...
para esperarte

Llegué tarde. Punto. Ni siquiera te interesa dar el salto mortal, así que para qué pensar en vos. Basta. Mi corazón tiene que mirar para otro lado, uno que me mire.

Me gusta

 Nuestras cartas sois vosotros, escritas en nuestros corazones, conocidas y leídas por todos los hombres

Para tener en mente en Machu Picchu

Están los que usan siempre la misma ropa…
Están los que llevan amuletos o hacen promesas.
Los que imploran mirando al cielo y los que creen en supersticiones.
Y están los que siguen corriendo, cuando las piernas le tiemblan.

Están los que siguen jugando cuando se les acabó el aire.
Los que siguen luchando cuando todo parece perdido.
Ellos están convencidos de que la vida es un desafío en si misma.

Sufren pero no se quejan, saben que el dolor pasa,
el sudor se seca, el cansancio se termina…
Saben que hay algo que nunca desaparecerá:
La satisfacción de lograr un sueño.

Sus cuerpos tienen la misma cantidad de músculos.
Por sus venas corre la misma sangre.
Lo que los hace diferentes es su espíritu
y la determinación para alcanzar la cima.
Una cima a la que no se llega superando a los demás.
Sino superándose a uno mismo.

Fake it till you make it

“Act as if ye had faith, and faith will be given to you.”
This quote is a very late addition to the Christian religion, and although almost everyone who hears it or reads it assumes that St. Paul wrote it, it was apparently first pronounced by St. Paul Newman in the role of “Frank Galvin” in 1982, and later repeated and popularized by “Leo McGarry” on The West Wing.
This bogus commandment is probably an appropriate motto for those of us who post readers’ blogs on political websites, because all the evidence suggests that everything we write is absolutely useless, and we can barely influence each other, much less anybody else…
…but if an imaginary lawyer in an almost forgotten movie can introduce new dogma into Christianity after 2000 years of heresies and Crusades, who can say that even we may not rattle the foundations of such another historical institution, or alter the course of apparently ineluctable historical forces?

Eterna Cenicienta

A dream is a wish your heart makes when you're fast asleep. In dreams you will lose your heartaches. Whatever you wish for, you keep. Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true.

Esas reconfortantes palabras no cambian el hecho de que nunca somos todos iguales. Siempre cuesta más, cuesta el doble, porque tenés la mitad. No sé por qué a veces se me olvida y me creo el verso de que todos los hijos son iguales... díganselo a Cenicienta.

Pero bueno, mirando hacia atrás, mi vida siempre pudo haber sido peor, así que basta de quejas y a actuar.

2011

 Metas:
- Dejar de soñar detalladamente las posibilidades del futuro. La mayoría (gran gran mayoría) de las veces no pasa nada de lo que pienso así que calclo que será mejor pensar en lo que está pasando.
- Después sigo